"I Kissed A Girl and I Liked It....." : Closure with Another Blogger
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My one-time fellow blogger's sudden angry outburst back in April on this post is much clearer now. And it seems that my hypothesis about the origin of Her tantrum was correct. I wrote the post about a male who had successfully approached his Wife to transform their formerly-vanilla marriage into a FemDom one.
The one-time 'friend' of mine, a fellow blogger, let loose with increasingly-strident comments, culminating in a final, petulant one, accompanied by emails of also increasing levels of anger. She deleted Her final comment, which read,
"Apparently my opinions are only welcome when they reinforce your worldview. I'll remember that in the future."
It seems I was right- that post hit a sore spot. All that was being discussed was the transformation by a male and his Wife of their marriage from vanilla to FemDom. The other blogger's comments essentially accused the male, and me, of promoting the subversion of a marriage or relationship because such a transformation would change it from its original basis, never minding that both parties would, potentially, agree.
Viewing periodic summaries of Her posts over the past few weeks via a burner link, and one in full this week, I see She has now explicitly admitted to having serious sexual orientation issues. Although married to a male, with a teen-aged child, She badly wants a deeply emotional, committed relationship with another Woman.
I guess Her feelings are summed up, and more, by Katy Perry's new song/video.
She mentions 'new' online friends, including one lesbian. Obviously, given the direction of the blogger's sexual issues, the need for or utility of a male submissive blogging 'friend'- moi- became de minimis. So much for loyalty or consistency.
Anyway, I think that post of mine, and the series of which it was a part, triggered a deep-seated hostility of the fellow blogger because this male had been able to approach his Wife and, together, successfully make changes in their marriage. My once-fellow blogger isn't so lucky.
With a child and a twice-married, once-divorced husband, She can't really easily straddle Her newfound sexual needs. Societal pressures and Her own conscience seem to be causing problems for Her, as She writes of being torn between finding new, fulfilling committed lesbian love, and having to accommodate Her existing heterosexual marriage and family.
Her most recent posts include passages such as,
"I refuse to live in the ordinary world as ordinary women. To enter ordinary relationships. I want ecstasy. I will not adjust myself to the world."
It's evident, now, that She was beginning to react to these stresses when She baselessly lashed out at me in Her comments on that post.
As several Domme friends with Whom I discussed the public comments and behaviors of the other blogger know, I sought closure. Primarily because I didn't feel I'd done anything to merit such vitriol. And nobody else Who viewed the situation did, either.
Now, I have some closure. Aside from what can probably charitably described as a rather serious identity crisis, it's evident that the other person is just very unstable. You don't reach mid-life, with a marriage and child, and almost having had another in the last nine months, and suddenly decide you really need to just be in a committed, exclusive monogamous lesbian relationship, without calling into question your ability to commit to anything.
I bear no ill will against this one-time blogging closer-than-acquaintance-but-probably-not-really-friend. My intentions here are not malicious toward Her, but, instead, relate to my finding evidence among Her own writing that Her outbursts toward me, and Her sudden cessation of all communication, had nothing to do with me. It, truly, was and is all about Her and Her newfound, life-complicating sexual revelations and orientations.
My posts just happened to become the lightning rod for Her reactions that week.
I'll be writing soon on another opportunity for closure, only this time, it'll be about an in-person involvement. These two situations together will provide me with an occasion to share some insights on verification in a world which so prominently features online communications more frequently than in-person ones.
The one-time 'friend' of mine, a fellow blogger, let loose with increasingly-strident comments, culminating in a final, petulant one, accompanied by emails of also increasing levels of anger. She deleted Her final comment, which read,
"Apparently my opinions are only welcome when they reinforce your worldview. I'll remember that in the future."
It seems I was right- that post hit a sore spot. All that was being discussed was the transformation by a male and his Wife of their marriage from vanilla to FemDom. The other blogger's comments essentially accused the male, and me, of promoting the subversion of a marriage or relationship because such a transformation would change it from its original basis, never minding that both parties would, potentially, agree.
Viewing periodic summaries of Her posts over the past few weeks via a burner link, and one in full this week, I see She has now explicitly admitted to having serious sexual orientation issues. Although married to a male, with a teen-aged child, She badly wants a deeply emotional, committed relationship with another Woman.
I guess Her feelings are summed up, and more, by Katy Perry's new song/video.
She mentions 'new' online friends, including one lesbian. Obviously, given the direction of the blogger's sexual issues, the need for or utility of a male submissive blogging 'friend'- moi- became de minimis. So much for loyalty or consistency.
Anyway, I think that post of mine, and the series of which it was a part, triggered a deep-seated hostility of the fellow blogger because this male had been able to approach his Wife and, together, successfully make changes in their marriage. My once-fellow blogger isn't so lucky.
With a child and a twice-married, once-divorced husband, She can't really easily straddle Her newfound sexual needs. Societal pressures and Her own conscience seem to be causing problems for Her, as She writes of being torn between finding new, fulfilling committed lesbian love, and having to accommodate Her existing heterosexual marriage and family.
Her most recent posts include passages such as,
"I refuse to live in the ordinary world as ordinary women. To enter ordinary relationships. I want ecstasy. I will not adjust myself to the world."
It's evident, now, that She was beginning to react to these stresses when She baselessly lashed out at me in Her comments on that post.
As several Domme friends with Whom I discussed the public comments and behaviors of the other blogger know, I sought closure. Primarily because I didn't feel I'd done anything to merit such vitriol. And nobody else Who viewed the situation did, either.
Now, I have some closure. Aside from what can probably charitably described as a rather serious identity crisis, it's evident that the other person is just very unstable. You don't reach mid-life, with a marriage and child, and almost having had another in the last nine months, and suddenly decide you really need to just be in a committed, exclusive monogamous lesbian relationship, without calling into question your ability to commit to anything.
I bear no ill will against this one-time blogging closer-than-acquaintance-but-probably-not-really-friend. My intentions here are not malicious toward Her, but, instead, relate to my finding evidence among Her own writing that Her outbursts toward me, and Her sudden cessation of all communication, had nothing to do with me. It, truly, was and is all about Her and Her newfound, life-complicating sexual revelations and orientations.
My posts just happened to become the lightning rod for Her reactions that week.
I'll be writing soon on another opportunity for closure, only this time, it'll be about an in-person involvement. These two situations together will provide me with an occasion to share some insights on verification in a world which so prominently features online communications more frequently than in-person ones.
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